Book Review How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie

Uncategorized Jan 28, 2020

It’s been awhile since I have read a book that is literally going to change my life. I found that book with How to Win Friends and Influence People by Dale Carnegie. Even though this book was originally written in 1935, it is still relevant today. I initially borrowed this book from the library, but I am planning on purchasing a copy because I want to study this book and apply its principles in my everyday life. 


If you read this book and apply it, it will literally change your life. I know in my day to day practice, I already employ some of the principles and it is why I get along with most people I meet. I believe that if everyone were to read this and try our best to live in this way, there would be so much less hate, so much less conflict. 


Essentially, Carnegie teaches us to look outside of ourselves for when we are dealing with other people. People love to talk about themselves, so we are to lend a listening ear. When we do this, that person is more likely wanting to reciprocate in some way. I know I do. When someone just listens to me and I feel like I am being heard, I feel amazing and I want to do something in return to please the other person. Sometimes all we need is a listening ear and why not be the one to provide it to someone else?


Also, Carnegie talks about avoiding conflict. He doesn’t mean sacrificing who you are or your beliefs, but communicating in a way that is gentle with people. Don’t go out of your way to embarrass others but allow for them to save face. Show compassion instead of being overly hurtful. Speak in a way that will allow for the other person to come to the conclusion that they have made a mistake. 


The book also delves into relationship/marriage advice. I will admit, some of this is a bit outdated, but overall the advice is still good. Show interest and compassion for your partner and having them feel heard, significant and special will lead to a lot more happiness vs conflict. 


I’m running a book club with some of my facebook friends and I have selected this book as the first one we are discussing. I am excited because this book club will be a combination of discussion, coaching and implementing books into our lives. It is a method I am developing to be used for all of you in the near future. I’m so incredibly excited for this. 


Let me know if this is something you would  be interested in. How many times do you read a book, feel incredibly inspired, but your life doesn’t change? I’m looking for a solution to change that so that we can all learn and grow together.  


Are you going to join me? Send me an email at [email protected] and I’ll put you on the waitlist for when this special book club will open up. 




Amy Mae


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