Hey you :)
I have something on my heart, as I am working through a very strong wave of emotions today. As someone who has always craved to be in a soulmate relationship, I had this realization that it is not about being with just anyone, but being with the RIGHT person.
I am the type of person who gets excited about anyone new I meet, especially when dating guys. I can usually picture myself making a future with this person and usually right away. My feelings come in this emotional high rush and I was never sure of how to deal with them. So I just always pictured myself trying to win over the guys I was with.
In my last relationship, this was tough. I was with a guy who was emotionally closed off and for some reason I saw that as a challenge. And I dealt with it by purchasing as many relationship courses as I could. Heck, I even invested in a relationship coach. What I learned is this: the marketing for relationship programming is so good. They tug at your pain points. I read things like “get any guy to fall for you, no matter what you look like” and “how to get your man back after he breaks up with you.”. And inside all those courses, ebooks, there was one underlying message: to lean back and use psychological manipulation to get a guy to want you.
I’m going to be honest, I tried it. And yes, it worked. I was able to use the tactics I learned to get the guy I dated in 2018 & 2019 to fall in love with me. I thought that was what my heart wanted. However, as soon as he did fall, nothing went right for me. It took me awhile to place it. I had spent about a year trying to get this guy to fall for me, when he wasn’t the right guy for me. I cared about him, loved him even, but my soul was craving someone different.
From my experience, I am firmly against using any form of manipulation to get a guy to fall for me. These tactics like, leaning back, and saying certain things to draw a guy’s attention are just ways to act out of alignment with who you are in order to land a guy. I have seen in facebook groups I’m in, women who are so afraid to text or say anything to a guy they are dating because they don’t want to come across as too forward.
Also, why pretend that you are not jealous or uncomfortable with something when you are? One of the best courses I took was one about how to have an open and honest conversation with someone you are dating. Don’t hide what you are feeling, but approach your feelings in a way that is mature and open.
I’m going to be perfectly honest, I am not the best with this. I experience emotional highs and lows and the work that I am doing right now is around navigating that. I can say that when I speak too soon while in my emotional turmoil, I break relationships. I push people away and no one wants to be around me. However, when I do have a calm conversation about how I am feeling with another person, things go a lot better.
This journey that I am on and the healing that I am embarking on is my purpose in this life. I’ve learned that in order to be the best partner and to have that soulmate relationship, you need to know and love yourself.
There’s plenty of dating advice out there. Some of it works, some of it doesn’t. What’s different about me and what I teach about dating is that YOU are unique. Everyone is unique. When you are completely yourself and have this desire to meet your soulmate, the right person is going to come into your life at the right time.
I am here to help you step into being completely yourself. To heal the shadows in your life so that you can attract that amazing man into your life. I’ve found that the more I heal myself and grow as a person, the closer I get with the man that I am building a relationship with.
Learning my Human Design has helped me step into being fully myself. It has been my guiding point this year, allowing me to follow what lights me up, and to ditch the things that bring me down.
Are you ready to step into your power with Human Design? Book a reading with me and I will break down your chart with you over a 60-90 minute session.